Language disorder & human communication

While I was trying to search for some informations to write and post for this blog, I found a phrase written on one the pages that I'd browsed through. The phrase is: Language disorder in human communication. Though I didn't click on the link to check on it, but it had really caught my attention. After second thought, I'd decided to post something regarding this here.

I have an aunty; she is a younger sister of my dad. I don't really know much about her as I seldom talk to my aunties and uncles. The things I knew are: her husband had passed away long time ago in a car accident - she has a son (who is my cousin brother) - she has speech disorder. She couldn't speak well; to be precise, she can't say any words but only sounds like "ahh", "umm" etc. I don't really remember what is the cause of her disorder. There are 2 versions of the cause which pop into my mind when I am recalling what my dad told me long time ago. First, it's beacuse of an accident, and second, when she's in her young age, she caught a high fever and after that she could not speak well, the illness got worsen til today.

Well, the main issue that I wish to emphasise in here is not about the cause of the disorder.
I wanna talk about the way she communicate with people, especially her son.

Since the only "word" that can be uttered from her mouth is the "ahh" sound, it's not easy to understand what she's trying to tell us most of the time. I remembered once when she's instructing me to get something from the kitchen, I could not understand it until my granma comes and tells me what she's trying to say. It's weird that my granma could understand the sign language she gave, but I obviously do not.

On the other hand, the way she communicates with her son is very special too. Once, when I was in granma's house for the festive celebration, my cousin brother was late back home. (PS: My this aunt and her son are staying at my granma's house.) His mother, who is my aunt pulled him aside and I saw them start arguing. The way they argue is not really in words, but in sound. As a by-stander, I could not understand what both of them are "talking" to each other. All I can conclude is that they are arguing, from their face expressions and body languages. "Seems like aunty is scolding cousin brother", I told myself.

Somehow, this incident bothered me for a while. The bond between my aunt and her son was so strong and they can understand what each other is trying to say, without using languge and words! Though my cousin brother looks kinda naughty boy and does not listen to his mother, but I could tell that he actually loved her very much. This mother has brought him up with her own hands for so many years, and both of them had each other during their tough time. It's kinda touch to see how they communicate without words, but only with sounds and body languages, which most of the time others can't understand.

So, what can I conclude from the way of communication between my aunt and her son? Simple, communication does not really depend on words, but the people. Sometimes, even with words, we still can't really communicate with each other, don't we? Let's think about the way some of us communicate with our parents. Get what I mean now?
Thus, as the fortunate ones, let's use the gift we have - our speech and language - and communicate with the ones arround us, in a good and correct way, to show your love and care.
**wink**

=Yin Foong=